Relationships are built in person, face to face. Sitting across someone allows for you to read body language, pick up on unspoken emotions and feelings, allows for responsibility and accountability, and creates an environment to talk through issues to ascertain intentions and find common ground. It “humanizes” your connection, whereas texting happens in a void. Relationships are a human experience, not a texting experience. Discussing relationship matters over text isolates you from connecting with the other person, missing out on what could be a profound experience of growth and intimacy…and of course, love.
Texting is not “discussing.” Most times when we are texting, we are multi-tasking. Whatever else we are doing distracts us from giving our full attention to what we are trying to convey. Plus, because most of us do not want to text lines and lines, we abbreviate and find ways to say what we want in 5 words or less without the benefit of explaining anything. People also use text to avoid difficult conversations, to avoid engaging/responding or to “control” a conversation. It’s easier to hide behind a non-descript two-line text, than to engage in conversations we find challenging. The downside to this is you will never have fulfilling relationships nor build inter-personal communication skills.
Humans are social creatures, and we are built to have relationships as such. Let’s keep it that way, take the time to build your relationships in person and save your texts for logistics.
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