Insight of the Week: The Deeper Truth of Self-Betrayal

Very often we do not choose to look at the deeper truth or reality of our life situations even when it is self-evident and literally, right in front of us. In our attempt to avoid pain, conflict and any form of change we bypass preferring to stay in our status quo even if it is undesirable or painful itself.  We, in effect, rationalize and “deceive or delude” ourselves, out of fear, of what it might mean and how our life would change if we chose to see things as they are, so we opt for “selective viewing” instead. We excuse, rationalize and justify, to avoid making necessary decisions. Doing so, though, not only keeps us stuck in the situation by our passive choice but creates self-betrayal which breeds self-resentment, shame and guilt, and if left unbridled over a long period of time: self-hatred which then creates all forms of self-sabotage and self-projection.

Within us we all have an internal knowing of what is and isn’t true for us and we know when we bypass facing situations and people out of our fear, insecurities and inadequacies. At some point, however, the pain of continuing in self-betrayal will outweigh the justifications (excuses) and rationalizations we tell ourselves about something or someone. And this is when we will take the step of courage to honestly look at our life situations as they are. Do not be afraid to do this, as avoidance always leads to an accumulation of the circumstances leading to an eruption or shattering of some sort followed by heavy damage control, which is almost always irreversible. Addressing the damage control will be much worse and compound the existing issue/situation.  It will also magnify our feelings of self-betrayal.

Self-betrayal breeds a disconnection with our sense of self every time we act against our needs, values and beliefs. It erodes our self-trust and our self-love which are essential components of our Soul’s evolution.

Personal growth and Soul evolution is not easy…but it is easier to embrace it and work with it knowing it exists to propel you forward rather than to “ride it out” hoping that by some magic wand things will work out in your favor without your input or inner work. There are no shortcuts, and life will bring you the same issue, situation or person over and over again until you choose to face the truth and what it’s there to teach you.  The choice is always ours.